English Lab April 17th

Since I missed last weeks class, I only saw about 45 minutes of the movie. I've never heard of it before but I thought it was pretty funny, from what I saw. It seemed to be about relationships and other issues that regular people deal with on a day to day basis. Although I'm not a huge Jack Black fan, I do like John Cusack enough to consider renting it on my own time. I usually dont like movies where the man character speaks directly to the audiance, but from the 45 minutes I saw of High Fidelity, it didnt really bother me that much. But yea, like I said, I missed the first half of the movie so I dont really have much to say. Hope this suffices.

Mediation Paper

The question I am going to mediate is: how does women's economic independence affect their freedom to engage in premarital sex and what sort of impact does it have on marriage?

Women have been gaining far more opportunities for economic independence, and in today's society, some have reached level comparable to those of men. The changing role of women has greatly affected the institution of marriage and all that it stands for. Women havent always had the freedom to choose their own husbands, as they do today. Family members played a huge role in setting up marriages in order to ensure a woman's status in society. Marriage was about finding a husband that could provide his wife with a stable life, someone with access to the all the resources necessary to ensure she will live a comfortable life. Because women today have immensly more opportunities to prosper in the workplace, they no longer need to look to men to take care of them. Women are getting married at later ages because they can afford to support themselves for longer without the aid of a husband. Women used to focus on making themselves suitable for men, and this often included the avoidance of premarital sex. Today's women dont need to scramble around looking for husbands after they leave their family, so it's less important to them how they are perceived by men. Women feel secure in enough areas of their lives so that if a man doesnt approve of her choice to engage in sexual relations, it doesnt have much of an effect on her.

In my paper, I will show both the positive and negative effects that women's economic independence has had on the issue of premarital sex and marriage.

Section 2 Suggestion for Writing (For Convincing)

The "soul-mate" marriage can only lead to unrealistic expectations and a quick outlet for escaping from a relationship. People believe that soul-mates are people that compliment each other so well, it's as if they were designed especially to be together. When people get this concept in their minds, they start building a set of criteria that another person must match in order to be considered the searchers soul-mate. whether people are aware of it or not, they be constantly overlooking people that they could potentially fall in love with, because they may not possess some mundane characteristic in order to be perfectly compatible.

Two completely different people may fall just as two very similar people could. Therefore, how do we determine what makes people soul-mates? The world is full of too many multdimesional people for any two to be considered perfect for each other. And on the same note, they're are probably more than one person that each of us coud fall in love with, its just a matter of time and place.

Searching for a soul-mate is a losing battle. It gives people an excuse to avoid love or give up on a relationship just because it isnt absoultely flawless. For example, in the section "who wants to marry a soul mate," it says that "87% of people agreed that they will find that special someone when they are ready to get married." This could cause problems because people may decide they want to get married before they have found the right person and then begin desperately searching for someone to fill that position. THis may cause people to either rush into a marriage becuase they have convinced themselves that they are ready or end up searching forever because their criteria is too unrealistic